A new survey has found that 9 in 10 teenage boys report facing pressures to be ‘manly’ through experiences of harassment, bullying, teasing, social exclusion, and psychological and physical violence.

The study, organised by gender equality group AWARE, surveyed 809 male respondents on their experiences during secondary school.

Virtually all (97 per cent) boys reported to have experienced violence or gender-policing for being ‘gay/girly’, or committed violence against other boys for being ‘gay/girly’.

For example, they had teased or insulted other boys for having feminine characteristics, or used words like ‘sissy’, ‘pondan’, ‘ah kua’ or ‘gay’ to refer to someone’s behaviour, or have been on the receiving end of such bullying.

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82 per cent of respondents have committed physical violence against others boys and/or transgender women or girls, while 74 per cent of respondents have experienced physical violence.

The survey also found that more than 20 per cent of respondents have been physically aggressive towards transgender women, or have actively gone to public areas where transgender people are known to be, in order to tease, insult or make rude gestures at them.

Photo: AWARE

Boys who have been pressured to be more gender-conforming were four times more likely to commit violence against and six times more likely to experience violence from other boys, and to have lower self-esteem.

“There’s an overwhelming connection between boys facing pressure to be ‘manly’ and boys using physical violence as well as verbal and social cruelty on one another,” said Ms Jolene Tan, Head of Advocacy and Research at AWARE.

“Parents and teachers need to reflect: when we tell boys to ‘take it like a man’ or ‘stop being a girl’, we are perpetuating a pattern of violence. The education system, too, needs to step in: by actively facilitating conversations respect.”

Mr Daryl Yam, one of the panelists at the roundtable for the survey findings, said: “I was subject to a fair deal of bullying as a kid. Teachers and classmates openly taunted me for being a ‘guniang’ or an ‘ah gua’, and it had a twisted effect on my personality, and my ability to form friendships with people.” 

“It led to very self-destructive behaviour, and the only thing it taught me was that masculinity – this constant pressure to be ‘a man’ – was an ideal that constantly led to ruin,” he added.

Other significant results from the survey include:

  • Some boys who were seen as ‘weak’ and ‘girly’ were reported to be sexually abused: One respondent reported that these boys “were raped”, while another said, “They (were) touched inappropriately to make them cry.”
  • Boys who were seen as ‘weak’ or ‘girly’ were socially excluded: ​Said one respondent, “They were socially outcast by most of the people they met and had little or no good friends around them.” Another said, “They were not included in sports, projects and outings. Also, they would be a hot topic to speak about when everyone is bored.”
  • Violence experienced by boys who were seen as ‘weak’ and ‘girly’ is normalised and trivialised: ​Said one respondent, “If they said how they felt when someone insulted them, they would say to take it like a man and stop being such a girl.”

thanhb@sph.com.sg

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